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Hi, I'm Andrea. :)

I'm a writer who is trained in hypnotherapy.

I listen to a lot of music, and started creating playlists intentionally to re-program my mind.

It's going pretty good so far, so I thought I'd share.

I wrote a book and started a blog to teach you how to do it too.

“Why does she have so many mirrors around the house?”

“Because she likes the way she looks.”

“Isn’t that kind of conceited?”

“No. She never used to like the way she looked, and now she does, so she’s enjoying it.”

. . .
What is Self Image?
👩🏽‍💻 “the idea one has of one’s abilities, appearance, and personality.”

🙋🏽‍♀️*re-defining your self image.

Who am I?
(Whatever you say you are.)
✍🏽 my likes, interests, personality traits, morals, values, passions, what gets me excited?
. . .

So a friend of a friend met me for lunch a few months ago and was like “yo, we’re launching this new company and you should be a part of it.” 💚

She is like a sister, angel, goddess wrapped up in one, and he’s pretty smart - so my first thought was, I can learn from them.🤔

I talked to my hardest-minded friends who would poke every hole they could find - because if I can make those people see, I know anyone will see.

Then I convinced a friend to come on a trip with me (it wasn’t very hard) and we met more really incredible people.🙌🏼

✔️The company sent a driver to pick us up (and return us) to the airport.

✔️ we missed the welcome dinner ✈️ but heard it was amazing and on the beach. We caught up with everyone later, dancing in the courtyard to live Bob Marley cover music🎵

✔️ we made new friends & attended live training from the leaders of the company.

✔️ the jungle themed pool party brought out all the cool people who like to dance💃🏽

✔️ we followed the crowd & walked onto a sunset cruise with all of our new friends.

✔️ they provided a farewell dinner where we exchanged numbers and talked about the trip.

✔️ the greatest hosts ever, hugged us goodbye and sent us in a car back to the airport.

☀️

I’ve never travelled without family. Actually, there’s a lot I’ve never done on my own.

I always wanted to be a mom, & being his wife makes me proud. But tbh, the best part of the trip was the feeling of being me.

I learned a long time ago to become my own best friend ✍🏽 and it felt good to see/be reminded of the kind of person I show up as, as an individual.

Because I think it’s a good thing to like yourself. And we all could use more friends.🙏🏽💚

“Why does she have so many mirrors around the house?”

“Because she likes the way she looks.”

“Isn’t that kind of conceited?”

“No. She never used to like the way she looked, and now she does, so she’s enjoying it.”

. . .
What is Self Image?
👩🏽‍💻 “the idea one has of one’s abilities, appearance, and personality.”

🙋🏽‍♀️*re-defining your self image.

Who am I?
(Whatever you say you are.)
✍🏽 my likes, interests, personality traits, morals, values, passions, what gets me excited?
. . .

So a friend of a friend met me for lunch a few months ago and was like “yo, we’re launching this new company and you should be a part of it.” 💚

She is like a sister, angel, goddess wrapped up in one, and he’s pretty smart - so my first thought was, I can learn from them.🤔

I talked to my hardest-minded friends who would poke every hole they could find - because if I can make those people see, I know anyone will see.

Then I convinced a friend to come on a trip with me (it wasn’t very hard) and we met more really incredible people.🙌🏼

✔️The company sent a driver to pick us up (and return us) to the airport.

✔️ we missed the welcome dinner ✈️ but heard it was amazing and on the beach. We caught up with everyone later, dancing in the courtyard to live Bob Marley cover music🎵

✔️ we made new friends & attended live training from the leaders of the company.

✔️ the jungle themed pool party brought out all the cool people who like to dance💃🏽

✔️ we followed the crowd & walked onto a sunset cruise with all of our new friends.

✔️ they provided a farewell dinner where we exchanged numbers and talked about the trip.

✔️ the greatest hosts ever, hugged us goodbye and sent us in a car back to the airport.

☀️

I’ve never travelled without family. Actually, there’s a lot I’ve never done on my own.

I always wanted to be a mom, & being his wife makes me proud. But tbh, the best part of the trip was the feeling of being me.

I learned a long time ago to become my own best friend ✍🏽 and it felt good to see/be reminded of the kind of person I show up as, as an individual.

Because I think it’s a good thing to like yourself. And we all could use more friends.🙏🏽💚

@thefivesbeachhotel #clubviago 🙏🏽

@thefivesbeachhotel #clubviago 🙏🏽

Thank you #clubviago 🙏🏽

Thank you #clubviago 🙏🏽

“Amplify your soul.” ☀️

“Amplify your soul.” ☀️

I hope you like jammin too. 🎵💚

I hope you like jammin too. 🎵💚

Journal intentions ✍🏽 :

1. Learn from the best, how to sell yourself with confidence.🙏🏽
2. How to make friends.
3. How to be a good friend (to self and others)
4. Workbook : ask better Q’s to get better A’s📓

. . .

“There are so many things we do in life expecting ourselves to fail. We act like we’re being humble, but really, we’re desperate for validation and hoping it will make us believe in ourselves. We think we need others to tell us we’re good enough before we can believe it.

Not a single person, circumstance or material object will make you believe that you are enough.

It’s your job to install that belief in yourself.

Money 💸 is simply an exchange for goods and services. We have created so many other meanings behind it, putting it at a crazy level of superiority over us. We tell ourselves all the time that if we could get more money we will be happy, safe and free.

Obviously, I would much rather have money than not. It does add a level of quality to your life that you cannot access without it. Just don’t make it what it’s all about.

We think the money will make us happy, but that’s actually backwards. When we get happy first, the money naturally gravitates towards us.

Like honestly, do you really think whatever miracle put you on earth, wants you to be poor and suffer?

Of course not, whatever created this planet, created you, and wants you to be happy.☀️

God wants you to have that dream closet, travel around the world in luxury & be with an amazing partner. Whatever is out there that makes the earth spin, sun come up and moon shine amongst stars ✨ also made you. You think it doesn’t have the capability to give you what you want to live a happy life?

Your entire world is happening in your own mind and reflecting out into what you see with your eyes. We’ve been taught that we need to see it to believe it, but that’s a lie. We must first believe it to see it.👀

The Universe is not withholding from you. You are withholding yourself.

Take the time to figure out what you really think, want to believe and who you desire to be. Then find the leaders who’ve already done it.”

- 📖🙋🏽‍♀️

. .

Thanks for having us @gypsy_dreamz🍃🩷

Journal intentions ✍🏽 :

1. Learn from the best, how to sell yourself with confidence.🙏🏽
2. How to make friends.
3. How to be a good friend (to self and others)
4. Workbook : ask better Q’s to get better A’s📓

. . .

“There are so many things we do in life expecting ourselves to fail. We act like we’re being humble, but really, we’re desperate for validation and hoping it will make us believe in ourselves. We think we need others to tell us we’re good enough before we can believe it.

Not a single person, circumstance or material object will make you believe that you are enough.

It’s your job to install that belief in yourself.

Money 💸 is simply an exchange for goods and services. We have created so many other meanings behind it, putting it at a crazy level of superiority over us. We tell ourselves all the time that if we could get more money we will be happy, safe and free.

Obviously, I would much rather have money than not. It does add a level of quality to your life that you cannot access without it. Just don’t make it what it’s all about.

We think the money will make us happy, but that’s actually backwards. When we get happy first, the money naturally gravitates towards us.

Like honestly, do you really think whatever miracle put you on earth, wants you to be poor and suffer?

Of course not, whatever created this planet, created you, and wants you to be happy.☀️

God wants you to have that dream closet, travel around the world in luxury & be with an amazing partner. Whatever is out there that makes the earth spin, sun come up and moon shine amongst stars ✨ also made you. You think it doesn’t have the capability to give you what you want to live a happy life?

Your entire world is happening in your own mind and reflecting out into what you see with your eyes. We’ve been taught that we need to see it to believe it, but that’s a lie. We must first believe it to see it.👀

The Universe is not withholding from you. You are withholding yourself.

Take the time to figure out what you really think, want to believe and who you desire to be. Then find the leaders who’ve already done it.”

- 📖🙋🏽‍♀️

. .

Thanks for having us @gypsy_dreamz🍃🩷

“I believe, we are heavily influenced through music.

I started thinking back to the role models on stage for us, while forming our view of the world.

It was totally inappropriate for our little ears.
We had no idea what we were listening to.
And it formed images in our mind, familiarizing us with the visuals created in our heads.

Our parents knew it was bad for us, they told us all the time we shouldn’t listen to it.
(If your parents spoke english.)”

- andreatsen.com/post/network-marketing-relationship-marketing

. . .

I MADE A PLAYLIST FOR YOU.

As a walk down memory lane 😇
and some life lessons you might understand better this time.

LINK(s) IN BIO
🎧🎵

“I believe, we are heavily influenced through music.

I started thinking back to the role models on stage for us, while forming our view of the world.

It was totally inappropriate for our little ears.
We had no idea what we were listening to.
And it formed images in our mind, familiarizing us with the visuals created in our heads.

Our parents knew it was bad for us, they told us all the time we shouldn’t listen to it.
(If your parents spoke english.)”

- andreatsen.com/post/network-marketing-relationship-marketing

. . .

I MADE A PLAYLIST FOR YOU.

As a walk down memory lane 😇
and some life lessons you might understand better this time.

LINK(s) IN BIO
🎧🎵

Oo la la 🌸
www.flowerbabycosmetics.com

Oo la la 🌸
www.flowerbabycosmetics.com

“She’s a personality hire.”

. . .

Thank you for all the new friends, and for how the new friends are connected to the old friends, who live close to home. 🏡

Which makes it easier to say goodbye for now. 👋🏽

. . .

We all compare ourselves to each other. But I think, what you see in others, is a reflection of self : good or bad.

I started looking for the good, and reminding myself that if I think these people are so awesome, and I’m hanging out with them, I must be too right?

We attract what we’re putting out. A lot of times you just have to be the first person to talk, and a whole new world of friendship opens.

. . .

👉🏽 as she tucked me into bed, she surrounded me with the crystals from my night stand, placed her favourite teddy in my arms, took my hand in hers, looked me straight in the eyes and said :

“You are my queen, and I’ll do it again tomorrow.”
🥹🥲

Parenting is the hardest thing ever - if you want to do good at it.

But it’s like, the most rewarding thing on the planet.

I love learning from other parents, especially from other cultures. Then we pick and choose which strategies we want to adopt.

Thank you for surrounding me with good people. 🙏🏽

. . .

Bye Mexico 👋🏽 (and the most beautiful sunsets ever) #puertovallarta

see you in December 😍
#viagolaunch #lvg

“She’s a personality hire.”

. . .

Thank you for all the new friends, and for how the new friends are connected to the old friends, who live close to home. 🏡

Which makes it easier to say goodbye for now. 👋🏽

. . .

We all compare ourselves to each other. But I think, what you see in others, is a reflection of self : good or bad.

I started looking for the good, and reminding myself that if I think these people are so awesome, and I’m hanging out with them, I must be too right?

We attract what we’re putting out. A lot of times you just have to be the first person to talk, and a whole new world of friendship opens.

. . .

👉🏽 as she tucked me into bed, she surrounded me with the crystals from my night stand, placed her favourite teddy in my arms, took my hand in hers, looked me straight in the eyes and said :

“You are my queen, and I’ll do it again tomorrow.”
🥹🥲

Parenting is the hardest thing ever - if you want to do good at it.

But it’s like, the most rewarding thing on the planet.

I love learning from other parents, especially from other cultures. Then we pick and choose which strategies we want to adopt.

Thank you for surrounding me with good people. 🙏🏽

. . .

Bye Mexico 👋🏽 (and the most beautiful sunsets ever) #puertovallarta

see you in December 😍
#viagolaunch #lvg

He said, these are the three mantras for a long and happy marriage.

I am sorry
You are right
Everything is the will of God

He also said, the absence of Ego is God. 🙏🏽

. . .

I feel like I hear a lot of people talk about God like it’s a waiting game. We “surrender” our lives to God, following his direction of what we think he wants us to do, or are supposed to do, and feel bad about ourselves when we fail to meet the standard.

But doesn’t that make us all sound like puppets? I used to visualize some dude in the sky playing with dolls like we’re all Barbies following the positions he puts us.

But what if like, we’re not working for him, but rather he’s working for us?

I think he’s hoping we have enough knowledge and experience to make the best choices for ourselves, and I think “the higher power” surrounds us with people and opportunities, especially when we go off track - like guidance to direct us back on course.

but I think we design our own path, and “it” holds us accountable.

. . .

Imagine you found a genie and were like,
“Oh my gosh, this is so cool. All my dreams can now come true.”

And the genies like yep! I’m yours- what do you want?

And your like, I dno, you tell me.

and 🧞‍♀️‘s like - that’s not how this works. YOU tell me what you want, and I make it come true. :)

And your like, well I don’t know what I want, can you show me some things?

So the genie shows you some visuals, scenes in your mind of things you might like : 💭❤️👶🏽💸✈️🚘🌠

Your like, those all look good but I can’t decide.

So genie ☝🏽 says,
“That’s okay I’ll WAIT, and when you’re ready, as in you’re ready to tell me what you want - I will lay the map to find your way.”

👉🏽 then you follow intuition, your inner guidance system. Which COMMUNICATES TO US through our feelings 🩷

If it feels good, you’re on track, keep going cause it’s already yours.

If it feels bad, re-evaluate. Check yourself, is this what you want? Does it get you closer to the wish fulfillment?

It’s collaboration.
Us and each other.
Us and 🙏🏽

👉🏽these two are perfect for each other. And it’s been incredible to share in the joy with their families.

So proud of him and thrilled for them.

He said, these are the three mantras for a long and happy marriage.

I am sorry
You are right
Everything is the will of God

He also said, the absence of Ego is God. 🙏🏽

. . .

I feel like I hear a lot of people talk about God like it’s a waiting game. We “surrender” our lives to God, following his direction of what we think he wants us to do, or are supposed to do, and feel bad about ourselves when we fail to meet the standard.

But doesn’t that make us all sound like puppets? I used to visualize some dude in the sky playing with dolls like we’re all Barbies following the positions he puts us.

But what if like, we’re not working for him, but rather he’s working for us?

I think he’s hoping we have enough knowledge and experience to make the best choices for ourselves, and I think “the higher power” surrounds us with people and opportunities, especially when we go off track - like guidance to direct us back on course.

but I think we design our own path, and “it” holds us accountable.

. . .

Imagine you found a genie and were like,
“Oh my gosh, this is so cool. All my dreams can now come true.”

And the genies like yep! I’m yours- what do you want?

And your like, I dno, you tell me.

and 🧞‍♀️‘s like - that’s not how this works. YOU tell me what you want, and I make it come true. :)

And your like, well I don’t know what I want, can you show me some things?

So the genie shows you some visuals, scenes in your mind of things you might like : 💭❤️👶🏽💸✈️🚘🌠

Your like, those all look good but I can’t decide.

So genie ☝🏽 says,
“That’s okay I’ll WAIT, and when you’re ready, as in you’re ready to tell me what you want - I will lay the map to find your way.”

👉🏽 then you follow intuition, your inner guidance system. Which COMMUNICATES TO US through our feelings 🩷

If it feels good, you’re on track, keep going cause it’s already yours.

If it feels bad, re-evaluate. Check yourself, is this what you want? Does it get you closer to the wish fulfillment?

It’s collaboration.
Us and each other.
Us and 🙏🏽

👉🏽these two are perfect for each other. And it’s been incredible to share in the joy with their families.

So proud of him and thrilled for them.

“Can I buy your chapter book? I’ll buy it for sixty dollars.”

Only problem is I don’t know where my piggy bank is.”

- Kaia Tsen
. . .

Thanks for being you. 🙏🏽

. . .

“David told me you wrote a book. That’s awesome.”

“Yeah, the next one I want to write is,

Same Hustle, Different Game : how to be a man from a woman’s perspective.”

“Oh wow that’s cool, I’d read it.
I probably wouldn’t take your advice though.”

🙂

“Can I buy your chapter book? I’ll buy it for sixty dollars.”

Only problem is I don’t know where my piggy bank is.”

- Kaia Tsen
. . .

Thanks for being you. 🙏🏽

. . .

“David told me you wrote a book. That’s awesome.”

“Yeah, the next one I want to write is,

Same Hustle, Different Game : how to be a man from a woman’s perspective.”

“Oh wow that’s cool, I’d read it.
I probably wouldn’t take your advice though.”

🙂

“Dad! Leave me alone, I’m hanging out with my friends.”

“Did you know the pizza is free here? Like, because we have these bracelets, we’re like VIP, we don’t have to pay for anything!”

🙏🏽🩷👭🏽

“Dad! Leave me alone, I’m hanging out with my friends.”

“Did you know the pizza is free here? Like, because we have these bracelets, we’re like VIP, we don’t have to pay for anything!”

🙏🏽🩷👭🏽

What does it sound like?

💭

I don’t know what to write so I’ll just open the book I feel drawn to, and write the first paragraph that catches my eye.

📖 The Seat of The Soul - Gary Zukav

“Non physical reality is your home. You came from non physical reality, and the larger part of you currently resides in, and evolves in, nonphyscial reality.

The same is true for each of the billions of human beings upon this planet. Therefore, the majority of your interactions with human beings occurs in non physical reality.

For example, when you think loving thoughts of someone who is close to you emotionally, such as a family member, you shift the quality of your consciousness, and this contributes to his or her energy system.

If a daughter who harbours resentment toward her father, 🙃 for example, evolves into a deeper understanding of her relationship with him, such as an understanding of the karmic role that he has played in activating within her a major lesson of love or responsibility, and if her intention is to heal herself and her relationship with her father is deep and clear,

do not think, even for an instant, that her father is not aware of this, even if she does not speak to him.

He is not aware consciously, but his whole being feels what she is doing. His conscious mind may feel it through sudden moments of sentimentalism about things that he had not thought about before, or he may suddenly look at pictures of his daughter as a young child and feel a pull in his heart even though he is not consciously aware of why he is feeling what he is feeling or doing what he is doing.”

. . .
✍🏽

I met another person who is afraid to journal. 📓 🙁

And when I walked past a table this morning,

I smiled at a woman who then whispered to her table

“she’s an author, she writes books.”

I liked that a lot.

. . .
I spent a long time editing a video, posted &the filter glitched. 🙄 I hate when that happens.

That used to happen when I was writing or making a website, I’d accidentally lose my progress and not want to start over.

But you have to start over, no choice, if you wanna finish whatever you started.

Maybe 👆🏽 knows I can do better. 🤷🏽‍♀️👩🏽‍💻

What does it sound like?

💭

I don’t know what to write so I’ll just open the book I feel drawn to, and write the first paragraph that catches my eye.

📖 The Seat of The Soul - Gary Zukav

“Non physical reality is your home. You came from non physical reality, and the larger part of you currently resides in, and evolves in, nonphyscial reality.

The same is true for each of the billions of human beings upon this planet. Therefore, the majority of your interactions with human beings occurs in non physical reality.

For example, when you think loving thoughts of someone who is close to you emotionally, such as a family member, you shift the quality of your consciousness, and this contributes to his or her energy system.

If a daughter who harbours resentment toward her father, 🙃 for example, evolves into a deeper understanding of her relationship with him, such as an understanding of the karmic role that he has played in activating within her a major lesson of love or responsibility, and if her intention is to heal herself and her relationship with her father is deep and clear,

do not think, even for an instant, that her father is not aware of this, even if she does not speak to him.

He is not aware consciously, but his whole being feels what she is doing. His conscious mind may feel it through sudden moments of sentimentalism about things that he had not thought about before, or he may suddenly look at pictures of his daughter as a young child and feel a pull in his heart even though he is not consciously aware of why he is feeling what he is feeling or doing what he is doing.”

. . .
✍🏽

I met another person who is afraid to journal. 📓 🙁

And when I walked past a table this morning,

I smiled at a woman who then whispered to her table

“she’s an author, she writes books.”

I liked that a lot.

. . .
I spent a long time editing a video, posted &the filter glitched. 🙄 I hate when that happens.

That used to happen when I was writing or making a website, I’d accidentally lose my progress and not want to start over.

But you have to start over, no choice, if you wanna finish whatever you started.

Maybe 👆🏽 knows I can do better. 🤷🏽‍♀️👩🏽‍💻

@hrhvallarta ☀️

@hrhvallarta ☀️

We got married at @hrhvallarta 8 years ago 💍

and are SO happy to be back for our friends. 🙌🏼

. . .

I spent the last week telling Kaia how excited I was to walk her down the aisle with me.

We walked around the same corner from almost a decade ago

(I remember how nervous I was but I could feel my Dad was more nervous, so I held it together)

Last time I walked around this corner, I locked eyes with @david.tsen and felt every bit of nerves melt away.
And stayed focused on him.

This time, I turned and our gazebo was gone 🥲

But I like the renovations.

. . .

We started with a welcome dinner and spent the entire week bonding with our friends and family.

It’s an awesome experience to watch the people you love mingle and get along.

We had deep conversations, got to know each other on another level and left feeling bonded for life. 🗣️🫱🏽‍🫲🏾🥰

I love that about destination weddings (or any group vacations) because you truly walk away feeling like a new person.

I love being a guest this time, because I get to watch, soak it in and enjoy the experience with ease.

We are SOOOOO happy to have Kaia here with us. Life gets busy and the day to day can consume our time and space.

The hotel is exactly how I remember and I am beyond thrilled to be back. - I think we needed the reset.

I feel gratitude that we got married when we did.

1 - because I really loved the gazebo. 💐
2 - our social circle looks different now. I’m grateful for every single person who was on our wedding trip with us.

I’m really happy to be here.
Hope you have a good week. 👋🏽

We got married at @hrhvallarta 8 years ago 💍

and are SO happy to be back for our friends. 🙌🏼

. . .

I spent the last week telling Kaia how excited I was to walk her down the aisle with me.

We walked around the same corner from almost a decade ago

(I remember how nervous I was but I could feel my Dad was more nervous, so I held it together)

Last time I walked around this corner, I locked eyes with @david.tsen and felt every bit of nerves melt away.
And stayed focused on him.

This time, I turned and our gazebo was gone 🥲

But I like the renovations.

. . .

We started with a welcome dinner and spent the entire week bonding with our friends and family.

It’s an awesome experience to watch the people you love mingle and get along.

We had deep conversations, got to know each other on another level and left feeling bonded for life. 🗣️🫱🏽‍🫲🏾🥰

I love that about destination weddings (or any group vacations) because you truly walk away feeling like a new person.

I love being a guest this time, because I get to watch, soak it in and enjoy the experience with ease.

We are SOOOOO happy to have Kaia here with us. Life gets busy and the day to day can consume our time and space.

The hotel is exactly how I remember and I am beyond thrilled to be back. - I think we needed the reset.

I feel gratitude that we got married when we did.

1 - because I really loved the gazebo. 💐
2 - our social circle looks different now. I’m grateful for every single person who was on our wedding trip with us.

I’m really happy to be here.
Hope you have a good week. 👋🏽

I wrote a book about “how to build self confidence”
Because I was not confident.

Even now, I feel much more at ease in my room alone, than I do in a room of people. (I pretty much always leave my jacket on)🧥

But, at some point we have to walk the talk. How do I teach others something I don’t embody myself?

👉🏽 Self Accountability - I said I’d do it so I am.

. . .

When we moved to our last house, I didn’t hang any photos or mirrors. I wanted to go inwards, to understand why I was so self conscious in the first place. ✍🏽

I stopped looking at the outside and focused entirely on the inside. 🩷

What DO I like about me?

When I put the mirror back in my room, I started using it as a tool, to see myself. 👀

One day, when Kaia was 3, she was crying while resisting getting ready for the day (I used to cry on the floor in front of my closet pretty much every time I went out because I told myself nothing looked good.)

She walked past the mirror to the bathroom and stopped as she caught her reflection.
I saw her stand facing herself 🪞for a few moments as she watched herself cry.

Then she talked to me about how sad her face looked.

I try to create positive mirror experiences with her. “Let’s walk towards the mirror together”

I consciously re-built the relationship I have to my own reflection, because

a) why do we avoid ourselves?
And b) when you look good you feel good, and when you feel good you look good.

👉🏽 it all starts with/ stems from/ is created by
What we tell ourselves, about ourselves.

So I started saying nicer things to myself,
And listening to music that spoke kinder language,
And being conscious of what I looked at online.

And instead of blaming others, I took self ownership and used my journal to understand myself.

I take what I learn, about myself, and I share it with someone I feel will not judge me.

Because it gives relief, the feeling I’m normal, okay, we’re all the same, all is well.

🙏🏽
. . .

And then I started dancing in front of the mirror.
That’s when things really started to level up.

Thank you @djsheckle + @calabashbistro

See you next time : November 15 🎵🙌🏼🪩

Ps.. Thanks @hairbysonj for the hair 💁🏽‍♀️💃🏽

I wrote a book about “how to build self confidence”
Because I was not confident.

Even now, I feel much more at ease in my room alone, than I do in a room of people. (I pretty much always leave my jacket on)🧥

But, at some point we have to walk the talk. How do I teach others something I don’t embody myself?

👉🏽 Self Accountability - I said I’d do it so I am.

. . .

When we moved to our last house, I didn’t hang any photos or mirrors. I wanted to go inwards, to understand why I was so self conscious in the first place. ✍🏽

I stopped looking at the outside and focused entirely on the inside. 🩷

What DO I like about me?

When I put the mirror back in my room, I started using it as a tool, to see myself. 👀

One day, when Kaia was 3, she was crying while resisting getting ready for the day (I used to cry on the floor in front of my closet pretty much every time I went out because I told myself nothing looked good.)

She walked past the mirror to the bathroom and stopped as she caught her reflection.
I saw her stand facing herself 🪞for a few moments as she watched herself cry.

Then she talked to me about how sad her face looked.

I try to create positive mirror experiences with her. “Let’s walk towards the mirror together”

I consciously re-built the relationship I have to my own reflection, because

a) why do we avoid ourselves?
And b) when you look good you feel good, and when you feel good you look good.

👉🏽 it all starts with/ stems from/ is created by
What we tell ourselves, about ourselves.

So I started saying nicer things to myself,
And listening to music that spoke kinder language,
And being conscious of what I looked at online.

And instead of blaming others, I took self ownership and used my journal to understand myself.

I take what I learn, about myself, and I share it with someone I feel will not judge me.

Because it gives relief, the feeling I’m normal, okay, we’re all the same, all is well.

🙏🏽
. . .

And then I started dancing in front of the mirror.
That’s when things really started to level up.

Thank you @djsheckle + @calabashbistro

See you next time : November 15 🎵🙌🏼🪩

Ps.. Thanks @hairbysonj for the hair 💁🏽‍♀️💃🏽

I’ve talked to a couple people recently who told me they used to journal, and found it really helpful.

BUT they had a traumatic experience where someone read it, and used it against them.

Or told others.

Or shamed/embarrassed them in some way.

I’ve had that happen to me in the past, and it sucks.
Because I didn’t want to talk to another human
But I needed a safe place to express my un-filtered thoughts.

Having that privacy taken away or shamed, does not feel good.

. . .

I think what comes out in a journaling sessions are underdeveloped thoughts.

They are not necessarily true to what you believe in your heart - but if they are coming out of you - it means it’s in you.

The point is not to judge them, but to clean it up.

Because once I can see what I’m telling myself,
I empower myself to change it.

Thoughts are not concrete unless we attach feeling and MAKE THEM concrete.

Most of us do that unconsciously, attaching feelings to thoughts and get stuck in the story we tell ourselves is “true”

Sometimes it sounds good in your head, but when you see it on paper it’s like, maaaybe that’s not what I want. 🤔

So what do I want instead? 💭✍🏽

👉🏽 it’s your mind, you can tell it whatever you want.
The trick is getting yourself to believe the new story.

So I 🙋🏽‍♀️ match the desired thoughts with music that matches. 🧲

I keep writing/listening/visioning/feeling/editing/moving

Until iiiiiiiii know what I want.

Then I follow my intuition, because since I’ve gotten so clear on what I want and where I’m headed -

I TRUST my inner map to get me where I said I want to go.

- and I just work on staying positive to keep myself out of the way.
. . .

My mentor taught me it’s easy to make decisions, yes or no, when you know what you want.

Is this in alignment with my goal? Will it get me closer to where I want to go?

YES OR NO

☀️

I’ve talked to a couple people recently who told me they used to journal, and found it really helpful.

BUT they had a traumatic experience where someone read it, and used it against them.

Or told others.

Or shamed/embarrassed them in some way.

I’ve had that happen to me in the past, and it sucks.
Because I didn’t want to talk to another human
But I needed a safe place to express my un-filtered thoughts.

Having that privacy taken away or shamed, does not feel good.

. . .

I think what comes out in a journaling sessions are underdeveloped thoughts.

They are not necessarily true to what you believe in your heart - but if they are coming out of you - it means it’s in you.

The point is not to judge them, but to clean it up.

Because once I can see what I’m telling myself,
I empower myself to change it.

Thoughts are not concrete unless we attach feeling and MAKE THEM concrete.

Most of us do that unconsciously, attaching feelings to thoughts and get stuck in the story we tell ourselves is “true”

Sometimes it sounds good in your head, but when you see it on paper it’s like, maaaybe that’s not what I want. 🤔

So what do I want instead? 💭✍🏽

👉🏽 it’s your mind, you can tell it whatever you want.
The trick is getting yourself to believe the new story.

So I 🙋🏽‍♀️ match the desired thoughts with music that matches. 🧲

I keep writing/listening/visioning/feeling/editing/moving

Until iiiiiiiii know what I want.

Then I follow my intuition, because since I’ve gotten so clear on what I want and where I’m headed -

I TRUST my inner map to get me where I said I want to go.

- and I just work on staying positive to keep myself out of the way.
. . .

My mentor taught me it’s easy to make decisions, yes or no, when you know what you want.

Is this in alignment with my goal? Will it get me closer to where I want to go?

YES OR NO

☀️

My dog Vinny died a couple years ago.
These are the lessons he taught me.

☝🏽 boredom leads to trouble.
👉🏽 we all require bonding, and exercise.

✌🏽 take the focus off yourself.
👉🏽 I had a hard time taking action for myself. I think it was a mix of not believing in myself, and not feeling worthy.

🙋🏽‍♀️ I worked on the “not worth of money” for a long time and that one has gotten a lot better. 💸

It’s the “worthy of time” that really f*cked sh*t up for me.

I was telling myself I’M NOT WORTHY OF HIS TIME
#absentfather

I’ve been telling @david.tsen that I didn’t think I was good enough for him for almost 18 years

And every time he’s like…. But you are.

So is it a him problem? (Something he needs to change)

Or a me problem? (Something I need to change)

☝🏽✌🏽
👉🏽 COMMUNICATION IS KEY

There is no relationship without it.

Which includes your dog 🐶

When you speak out loud to your dog, how do you treat them? 🐩
What energy comes out of you when you interact with your dog? 🐕

#selfreflect

. . .

💭 take the focus off yourself.

Companionship - is the state of spending time with someone or having someone to spend time with.
. . .

✍🏽 I didn’t prioritize the time for self care, because I didn’t think I was worthy of it. Knowing I am worthy, is the thought that needed to change.
I knew SHE is worthy - the dog and the kid - I took the focus off myself, and realized I needed to be better FOR her.

🎵 so I started hanging out with music.
So I’m like, by myself, but with companionship.

And I leave Bob Marley on for the dog when we’re away.

I told everyone to f*ck off 🙃🙏🏽 and by that I mean I stopped answering.

And then I sat down and thought about what I want - I asked myself what kind of life I want to live, and I worked on MY BELIEF SYSTEM until I came to the concrete, unwavering, certain truth :

I am creating my own reality.
With the thoughts I tell myself.
So I changed my thoughts, to match my vision 👀
🙏🏽’d a lot.

And still see Vinny with me everywhere I go. 🐶

“And when you know you are enough, everyone around you knows it too”
- @marisapeertherapy

Happy birthday Vinny 🥳

My dog Vinny died a couple years ago.
These are the lessons he taught me.

☝🏽 boredom leads to trouble.
👉🏽 we all require bonding, and exercise.

✌🏽 take the focus off yourself.
👉🏽 I had a hard time taking action for myself. I think it was a mix of not believing in myself, and not feeling worthy.

🙋🏽‍♀️ I worked on the “not worth of money” for a long time and that one has gotten a lot better. 💸

It’s the “worthy of time” that really f*cked sh*t up for me.

I was telling myself I’M NOT WORTHY OF HIS TIME
#absentfather

I’ve been telling @david.tsen that I didn’t think I was good enough for him for almost 18 years

And every time he’s like…. But you are.

So is it a him problem? (Something he needs to change)

Or a me problem? (Something I need to change)

☝🏽✌🏽
👉🏽 COMMUNICATION IS KEY

There is no relationship without it.

Which includes your dog 🐶

When you speak out loud to your dog, how do you treat them? 🐩
What energy comes out of you when you interact with your dog? 🐕

#selfreflect

. . .

💭 take the focus off yourself.

Companionship - is the state of spending time with someone or having someone to spend time with.
. . .

✍🏽 I didn’t prioritize the time for self care, because I didn’t think I was worthy of it. Knowing I am worthy, is the thought that needed to change.
I knew SHE is worthy - the dog and the kid - I took the focus off myself, and realized I needed to be better FOR her.

🎵 so I started hanging out with music.
So I’m like, by myself, but with companionship.

And I leave Bob Marley on for the dog when we’re away.

I told everyone to f*ck off 🙃🙏🏽 and by that I mean I stopped answering.

And then I sat down and thought about what I want - I asked myself what kind of life I want to live, and I worked on MY BELIEF SYSTEM until I came to the concrete, unwavering, certain truth :

I am creating my own reality.
With the thoughts I tell myself.
So I changed my thoughts, to match my vision 👀
🙏🏽’d a lot.

And still see Vinny with me everywhere I go. 🐶

“And when you know you are enough, everyone around you knows it too”
- @marisapeertherapy

Happy birthday Vinny 🥳

Oh hi, I joined a travel club. ✈️

Msg me if you wanna hear about it. ☀️🛩️👋🏽

Oh hi, I joined a travel club. ✈️

Msg me if you wanna hear about it. ☀️🛩️👋🏽

Hope your weekend was a good as mine. Yay to new adventures 🙌🏼

Hope your weekend was a good as mine. Yay to new adventures 🙌🏼

“Children learn by what we do, our behaviours, the actions we model, not what we say.”

Step One : RELFECT ✍🏽
Draw a T chart
On the L side : write down everything on your mind you don’t want - what’s been bothering you?
*get the thoughts out of your head and onto paper.

Ask yourself :
Is what I’m seeing true?
Am I seeing this from a limited viewpoint, forgetting my gratitude, or judging myself in some way?
Has an old memory been triggered?
Is there something I no longer feel in alignment with?

Step Two : CREATE 💭
Q - WHAT DO I WANT INSTEAD?
On the R side of your T chart, next to every point you vented, what’s the OPPOSITE experience?

Because knowing what I don’t want… shows me more clearly what I do want.

Step Three : INSTALL 🎵
*focus your attention towards pleasure.
What brings you pleasure? What do you enjoy doing?
Where does your passion come out? What makes you feel good or gets you excited?
** get excited for life again. ☀️

🙋🏽‍♀️ instead of listening to my thoughts of self doubt, I borrow someone else’s thoughts of self belief, through music.🎶

“I use music to build my self esteem, by installing an updated self image. From that space, I have the confidence to override the fear and take action.

The more action I take in the direction I want to go, the more evidence I build that it’s all working out, and it feeds further into my self image.

Your confidence will grow when you USE your ability to create the person you want to be, and influence yourself as to how you show up.”

-Skinny Pretty Outgoing Rich 📖
(Available on Amazon)

. . .

They model your actions, so be an example.
They take your words as literal - so be careful what you say.
👉🏽 what if an entire generation of parents healed themselves and parented from that standpoint?

How do you think that would impact the world?

I think a lot about #millennialparents because we are the last to know life before all the technology. ⚽️🛝

Let’s not forget, and consciously create environments where it is safe for kids to be kids.

And get some friends. So we don’t go insane while going through this stage in our lives.

And be teammates in the home - it helps a lot.

🙏🏽

“Children learn by what we do, our behaviours, the actions we model, not what we say.”

Step One : RELFECT ✍🏽
Draw a T chart
On the L side : write down everything on your mind you don’t want - what’s been bothering you?
*get the thoughts out of your head and onto paper.

Ask yourself :
Is what I’m seeing true?
Am I seeing this from a limited viewpoint, forgetting my gratitude, or judging myself in some way?
Has an old memory been triggered?
Is there something I no longer feel in alignment with?

Step Two : CREATE 💭
Q - WHAT DO I WANT INSTEAD?
On the R side of your T chart, next to every point you vented, what’s the OPPOSITE experience?

Because knowing what I don’t want… shows me more clearly what I do want.

Step Three : INSTALL 🎵
*focus your attention towards pleasure.
What brings you pleasure? What do you enjoy doing?
Where does your passion come out? What makes you feel good or gets you excited?
** get excited for life again. ☀️

🙋🏽‍♀️ instead of listening to my thoughts of self doubt, I borrow someone else’s thoughts of self belief, through music.🎶

“I use music to build my self esteem, by installing an updated self image. From that space, I have the confidence to override the fear and take action.

The more action I take in the direction I want to go, the more evidence I build that it’s all working out, and it feeds further into my self image.

Your confidence will grow when you USE your ability to create the person you want to be, and influence yourself as to how you show up.”

-Skinny Pretty Outgoing Rich 📖
(Available on Amazon)

. . .

They model your actions, so be an example.
They take your words as literal - so be careful what you say.
👉🏽 what if an entire generation of parents healed themselves and parented from that standpoint?

How do you think that would impact the world?

I think a lot about #millennialparents because we are the last to know life before all the technology. ⚽️🛝

Let’s not forget, and consciously create environments where it is safe for kids to be kids.

And get some friends. So we don’t go insane while going through this stage in our lives.

And be teammates in the home - it helps a lot.

🙏🏽

Happy thanks-giving weekend 🇨🇦

Happy thanks-giving weekend 🇨🇦

“He said, creativity is intelligence having fun.”

👆🏽 I like that.

. . .

A couple years ago, we were looking for new furniture and went to @furniturestorycanada

Adi helped custom create our couches and bedroom sets. I told him I was writing a book and he asked me about it.
He encouraged me, and told me he would read it.

We’re back in the market and went to Adi for a new couch - He knew exactly what I wanted and showed the perfect option.

🙋🏽‍♀️ I specifically want it to be comfortable. The sink in and don’t wanna get back up kind. 🛋️✍🏽

I told him I finished the book.
He pulled it up on his computer and ordered it immediately.

I went back to see him today and the first thing he said was, “your book hasn’t come in yet!”

Thanks Adi. 🙏🏽 Also for the conversation today!

I told him what the book was about, and he asked me if I’ve struggled with mental health - I told him yes. I blamed my body and created a f*cked up relationship with food.

I asked if he’s struggled.

He said no.

And then we talked about differences in culture, childhood, how we perceive things and the importance of appreciation.

And we laughed a lot, cause we’re like minded and try not to take things too seriously.

. . .

“But how do you accept something that you want to change?

I knew I had to stop looking at my body. I had to focus my mind somewhere else. I had to find something about myself that I did like, that no one could judge, change, or take away from me.

I started looking at my values.”

📖 Skinny Pretty Outgoing & Rich, Andrea Tsen

AVAILABLE ON AMAZON
In case you wanna read it 🥰

#mentalhealthday

“He said, creativity is intelligence having fun.”

👆🏽 I like that.

. . .

A couple years ago, we were looking for new furniture and went to @furniturestorycanada

Adi helped custom create our couches and bedroom sets. I told him I was writing a book and he asked me about it.
He encouraged me, and told me he would read it.

We’re back in the market and went to Adi for a new couch - He knew exactly what I wanted and showed the perfect option.

🙋🏽‍♀️ I specifically want it to be comfortable. The sink in and don’t wanna get back up kind. 🛋️✍🏽

I told him I finished the book.
He pulled it up on his computer and ordered it immediately.

I went back to see him today and the first thing he said was, “your book hasn’t come in yet!”

Thanks Adi. 🙏🏽 Also for the conversation today!

I told him what the book was about, and he asked me if I’ve struggled with mental health - I told him yes. I blamed my body and created a f*cked up relationship with food.

I asked if he’s struggled.

He said no.

And then we talked about differences in culture, childhood, how we perceive things and the importance of appreciation.

And we laughed a lot, cause we’re like minded and try not to take things too seriously.

. . .

“But how do you accept something that you want to change?

I knew I had to stop looking at my body. I had to focus my mind somewhere else. I had to find something about myself that I did like, that no one could judge, change, or take away from me.

I started looking at my values.”

📖 Skinny Pretty Outgoing & Rich, Andrea Tsen

AVAILABLE ON AMAZON
In case you wanna read it 🥰

#mentalhealthday

This is literally my dream come true.🙏🏽

. . .

We spent the entire day at home, organizing the new house, while she played with the neighbourhood kids.☀️

We grew up playing outside, and we want that for her.

. . .

In the old house, I couldn’t catch up. It was too big for us and my mind was constantly thinking about what needed to be done.

Here, I feel capable of multi-tasking. Which is the ability to do more than one thing at a time.

I’m learning to set rules, guidelines, boundaries. And she’s young enough to accept them without defiance - so it makes sense to start early.

For example

Rules to having friends over :
#1. Our clothes stay on.
#2. Doors stay open

(She broke both)
👉🏽 which is how I learned to set them.

. . .

🙋🏽‍♀️✍🏽 from my perspective, our role as parents is to guide our children, to show them the way, and teach them what it means to be human.

A lot of us are scared to let our kids go, and we worry about how the outside world will affect them when we can’t protect them.

So we like to keep them home, close to us.

The problem is, we end up sheltering them, because we’re scared.

Dads are often better at taking them out to try new things, while us mom’s are usually thinking “be careful..” 🙊🙈

👉🏽 Then, when we have no choice but to send them off to the public, we leave them at a disadvantage.
Because we didn’t show them what to do.

I think, it’s our job to TAKE THEM into the world, let them watch us and answer their questions.

My goal is to always keep communication open, to surround her with other people she can trust, and let her watch me.

I pay attention, get to know her.
I listen when she talks, and ask her how she feels.

It was easier when she was a baby, it’s harder to be present in toddlerhood. It’s a lot of big emotions they can’t handle. So you, as parent, need to learn to self soothe, keep your calm,

which is for them to mimic you, and learn to regulate themselves. 💕

👉🏽we need other adults and they need other kids. Because we learn by interacting with each other, and then talking about it.

When your kid’s upset, self reflect because YOU are setting the vibe. They are relying on you.🫶🏽

This is literally my dream come true.🙏🏽

. . .

We spent the entire day at home, organizing the new house, while she played with the neighbourhood kids.☀️

We grew up playing outside, and we want that for her.

. . .

In the old house, I couldn’t catch up. It was too big for us and my mind was constantly thinking about what needed to be done.

Here, I feel capable of multi-tasking. Which is the ability to do more than one thing at a time.

I’m learning to set rules, guidelines, boundaries. And she’s young enough to accept them without defiance - so it makes sense to start early.

For example

Rules to having friends over :
#1. Our clothes stay on.
#2. Doors stay open

(She broke both)
👉🏽 which is how I learned to set them.

. . .

🙋🏽‍♀️✍🏽 from my perspective, our role as parents is to guide our children, to show them the way, and teach them what it means to be human.

A lot of us are scared to let our kids go, and we worry about how the outside world will affect them when we can’t protect them.

So we like to keep them home, close to us.

The problem is, we end up sheltering them, because we’re scared.

Dads are often better at taking them out to try new things, while us mom’s are usually thinking “be careful..” 🙊🙈

👉🏽 Then, when we have no choice but to send them off to the public, we leave them at a disadvantage.
Because we didn’t show them what to do.

I think, it’s our job to TAKE THEM into the world, let them watch us and answer their questions.

My goal is to always keep communication open, to surround her with other people she can trust, and let her watch me.

I pay attention, get to know her.
I listen when she talks, and ask her how she feels.

It was easier when she was a baby, it’s harder to be present in toddlerhood. It’s a lot of big emotions they can’t handle. So you, as parent, need to learn to self soothe, keep your calm,

which is for them to mimic you, and learn to regulate themselves. 💕

👉🏽we need other adults and they need other kids. Because we learn by interacting with each other, and then talking about it.

When your kid’s upset, self reflect because YOU are setting the vibe. They are relying on you.🫶🏽

“The definition of observer is someone who watches or notices something. I encourage you to become the observer of your own life. 👀✍🏽

Which is to build awareness.

During my study of #hynotherapy I learned how powerful the mind really is. The internet is full of people talking about manifesting their reality and banking on the law of attraction. 💸 It’s true - knowing what you want is the key ingredient to getting what you want. 💭💡

Problem is, I think some people forget, it works both ways. :(:

If you want to empower yourself to create something new.. you must first own, take responsibility for, the life you ALREADY created.

#feelings are simply indicators, communication of when it’s time to check in with yourself, ensuring YOU feel good about whatever you’re doing in that moment.

Your guidance system is FEELINGS.”

. .

“In my belief, nothing is good, bad, right or wrong. Everything just is. Life is made up of a series of #choices which are the small, seemingly insignificant, decisions we make every moment of every day, each leading to the next.

What is a “good” choice for me may be a “bad” choice for you, given yours and my individual wants, needs, desires, preferences, intentions, etc.

Just like how a perspective I hold is my truth, respectfully, the perspective you hold is your truth.

Pretty simple right?

What I think, say and do
is and will be presented as true for me.

What you think, say and do
is and will be presented as true for you.

👉🏽 which is why it’s important to not care what people think. Because we’re all just making it up anyways.”

- Skinny Pretty Outgoing & Rich, Andrea Tsen 🙋🏽‍♀️👩🏽‍💻

. . .

What’s your story? ✍🏽

📓

#happysunday ☀️
Hope you have a good week. 🙏🏽👋🏽

“The definition of observer is someone who watches or notices something. I encourage you to become the observer of your own life. 👀✍🏽

Which is to build awareness.

During my study of #hynotherapy I learned how powerful the mind really is. The internet is full of people talking about manifesting their reality and banking on the law of attraction. 💸 It’s true - knowing what you want is the key ingredient to getting what you want. 💭💡

Problem is, I think some people forget, it works both ways. :(:

If you want to empower yourself to create something new.. you must first own, take responsibility for, the life you ALREADY created.

#feelings are simply indicators, communication of when it’s time to check in with yourself, ensuring YOU feel good about whatever you’re doing in that moment.

Your guidance system is FEELINGS.”

. .

“In my belief, nothing is good, bad, right or wrong. Everything just is. Life is made up of a series of #choices which are the small, seemingly insignificant, decisions we make every moment of every day, each leading to the next.

What is a “good” choice for me may be a “bad” choice for you, given yours and my individual wants, needs, desires, preferences, intentions, etc.

Just like how a perspective I hold is my truth, respectfully, the perspective you hold is your truth.

Pretty simple right?

What I think, say and do
is and will be presented as true for me.

What you think, say and do
is and will be presented as true for you.

👉🏽 which is why it’s important to not care what people think. Because we’re all just making it up anyways.”

- Skinny Pretty Outgoing & Rich, Andrea Tsen 🙋🏽‍♀️👩🏽‍💻

. . .

What’s your story? ✍🏽

📓

#happysunday ☀️
Hope you have a good week. 🙏🏽👋🏽

Wanna buy a house?
#nextmoveisyours

📞📲 @oraclepropertygroup_
#fraservalley #realtor
#realestate #eaglemountain
#britishcolumbia

☀️🏞️🏡

. . .

🙋🏽‍♀️ also, working on the subject “how to sell yourself with confidence” while I share the book I wrote :

Skinny Pretty Outgoing & Rich
👉🏽 how to build self confidence.

📖👩🏽‍💻

✍🏽 + 🎵 + 🗣️🪞= Self Love Therapy 🌸

Repeat after me - “I am enough”

❤️

Wanna buy a house?
#nextmoveisyours

📞📲 @oraclepropertygroup_
#fraservalley #realtor
#realestate #eaglemountain
#britishcolumbia

☀️🏞️🏡

. . .

🙋🏽‍♀️ also, working on the subject “how to sell yourself with confidence” while I share the book I wrote :

Skinny Pretty Outgoing & Rich
👉🏽 how to build self confidence.

📖👩🏽‍💻

✍🏽 + 🎵 + 🗣️🪞= Self Love Therapy 🌸

Repeat after me - “I am enough”

❤️

A couple days ago, we went back to the old house to say goodbye.

(It was easier to say bye knowing it’s not forever, hope the renters like it.👍🏽)

We only lived in the house for 3 years, but in that time a lot happened, and changed. Plus I wrote a book there. 🙁✍🏽📖😁

I’m much happier moving out than I was moving in- so I am ready to go.👋🏽

. . .

✍🏽👩🏽‍💻He was gone for the night, so I planned a whole evening for just me and her.

I wanted to go to the store, get some snacks, and then lay in her new bunk bed and watch a movie on my computer, because I don’t know how to hook up the TV.

She said she wanted to go-to the movies.🍿
The night was meant for her, so I looked it up and found a kids robot one, she watched the preview and liked it.

We did the whole thing, walking up the stairs with our hands full of popcorn and candy, and as soon as I sat down she looked at me and said

“I want to go home.”

She doesn’t liked loud noises and we got inside during a preview.

I tried to encourage her to stay while I organized myself, but then I saw the look in her eyes when she said

“Why aren’t you getting up?”

So we left
And then she spilt her kids pack on the stairs.

We stopped in the hallway, I got on my knees and asked her.

She forgot how loud it was, wasn’t as loud on the phone.
I was super annoyed. But I listened to her.
. . .

Last night she wanted to sleep with a teddy bear her dad got me. I told her no, you have your own.

She came in my room, took it and said she wasn’t giving it back.
When I took it back, she cried and told her dad who backed me.
She came in my room crying because she wants it.
I told her no, because she didn’t ask and was rude about it.
Then she cried about 10 more things before finally falling asleep.

I learned early to recognize the difference in her cries.

Between when she WANTS something, & when she NEEDS something.

You can tell best by the look in their eyes.

. .

Biggest lesson: knowing what I don’t want, shows me what I do want.

+ she is looking at me for direction, guidance and safety. To be herself and to be seen for all sides of her self -knowing that none of them are wrong.
. .

👋🏽🏡
👉🏽thank you.🙏🏽❤️

A couple days ago, we went back to the old house to say goodbye.

(It was easier to say bye knowing it’s not forever, hope the renters like it.👍🏽)

We only lived in the house for 3 years, but in that time a lot happened, and changed. Plus I wrote a book there. 🙁✍🏽📖😁

I’m much happier moving out than I was moving in- so I am ready to go.👋🏽

. . .

✍🏽👩🏽‍💻He was gone for the night, so I planned a whole evening for just me and her.

I wanted to go to the store, get some snacks, and then lay in her new bunk bed and watch a movie on my computer, because I don’t know how to hook up the TV.

She said she wanted to go-to the movies.🍿
The night was meant for her, so I looked it up and found a kids robot one, she watched the preview and liked it.

We did the whole thing, walking up the stairs with our hands full of popcorn and candy, and as soon as I sat down she looked at me and said

“I want to go home.”

She doesn’t liked loud noises and we got inside during a preview.

I tried to encourage her to stay while I organized myself, but then I saw the look in her eyes when she said

“Why aren’t you getting up?”

So we left
And then she spilt her kids pack on the stairs.

We stopped in the hallway, I got on my knees and asked her.

She forgot how loud it was, wasn’t as loud on the phone.
I was super annoyed. But I listened to her.
. . .

Last night she wanted to sleep with a teddy bear her dad got me. I told her no, you have your own.

She came in my room, took it and said she wasn’t giving it back.
When I took it back, she cried and told her dad who backed me.
She came in my room crying because she wants it.
I told her no, because she didn’t ask and was rude about it.
Then she cried about 10 more things before finally falling asleep.

I learned early to recognize the difference in her cries.

Between when she WANTS something, & when she NEEDS something.

You can tell best by the look in their eyes.

. .

Biggest lesson: knowing what I don’t want, shows me what I do want.

+ she is looking at me for direction, guidance and safety. To be herself and to be seen for all sides of her self -knowing that none of them are wrong.
. .

👋🏽🏡
👉🏽thank you.🙏🏽❤️

🪞🗣️

“I see myself as the mother, role model, wife, partner and friend I want to be.
I see myself as the mother, role model, wife, partner and friend that I choose to be.”

. . .

Yesterday at a birthday party,
all the kids were in a single file line to the bathroom
to wash their hands.

Kaia came out and said,

“There was a bully in there.”

I’m like, what’d they say?

(The birthday was a class of grade 1’s turning 6 -Kaia’s 4.)

She told me
“they said,
______ is friends with a baby. And she was talking about me.

That’s rude. That’s a bully.”

I’m like, well how do you know they were talking about you? And you know you’re not a baby, so don’t worry about it.

Then we went into the party room and sat down.

20 mins later I’m like, who was it?

She described her outfit and we spotted her.

Then Kai said, “I’m gonna go stand up for myself.”

I’m like
Noo, it’s been too long, just leave it. You can say something if she says it again.

She was lingering around the kid while I mouthed “don’t start sh*t” and kept getting her to come back.

She wouldn’t let it go, so I’m like, k what are you gonna say?

“I’m just gonna ask her.”

Ugh okay fine.

So I sat beside, close enough that I was there, but “off to the side” enough that she was on her own.

She went up to the two older girls and said :

“In the bathroom you said ____ is friends with a baby. Were you talking about me?”

The kids like…

“Well aren’t you in preschool?”

Kaia looked at me, then back at them and said

“No. I’m in daycare.”

(Little do they know that she already graduated 2 years of preschool because she went early.)

The girls laughed and walked away.

Kaia came up to me and said that the bully was not very nice, but she’s glad she said something because now she won’t do it to anyone else.

. . .

Parenting, is letting them be themselves.
Setting the best example we can, and listening to them, just like we ask them to listen to us.

Our kids teach us, remind us and guide us better than any other relationship.

When weeee are willing to liiisten.👂🏼
(and practice what we preach🙏🏽)

. . .

✍🏽
I think step 1 is learning how to productively talk to yourself. 📓
#happysunday

🪞🗣️

“I see myself as the mother, role model, wife, partner and friend I want to be.
I see myself as the mother, role model, wife, partner and friend that I choose to be.”

. . .

Yesterday at a birthday party,
all the kids were in a single file line to the bathroom
to wash their hands.

Kaia came out and said,

“There was a bully in there.”

I’m like, what’d they say?

(The birthday was a class of grade 1’s turning 6 -Kaia’s 4.)

She told me
“they said,
______ is friends with a baby. And she was talking about me.

That’s rude. That’s a bully.”

I’m like, well how do you know they were talking about you? And you know you’re not a baby, so don’t worry about it.

Then we went into the party room and sat down.

20 mins later I’m like, who was it?

She described her outfit and we spotted her.

Then Kai said, “I’m gonna go stand up for myself.”

I’m like
Noo, it’s been too long, just leave it. You can say something if she says it again.

She was lingering around the kid while I mouthed “don’t start sh*t” and kept getting her to come back.

She wouldn’t let it go, so I’m like, k what are you gonna say?

“I’m just gonna ask her.”

Ugh okay fine.

So I sat beside, close enough that I was there, but “off to the side” enough that she was on her own.

She went up to the two older girls and said :

“In the bathroom you said ____ is friends with a baby. Were you talking about me?”

The kids like…

“Well aren’t you in preschool?”

Kaia looked at me, then back at them and said

“No. I’m in daycare.”

(Little do they know that she already graduated 2 years of preschool because she went early.)

The girls laughed and walked away.

Kaia came up to me and said that the bully was not very nice, but she’s glad she said something because now she won’t do it to anyone else.

. . .

Parenting, is letting them be themselves.
Setting the best example we can, and listening to them, just like we ask them to listen to us.

Our kids teach us, remind us and guide us better than any other relationship.

When weeee are willing to liiisten.👂🏼
(and practice what we preach🙏🏽)

. . .

✍🏽
I think step 1 is learning how to productively talk to yourself. 📓
#happysunday

When the intention comes to life 🩷 ahh I really like it here. Thanks @david.tsen 🏡❤️

When the intention comes to life 🩷 ahh I really like it here. Thanks @david.tsen 🏡❤️

On the mooooooove 🎵

This one feels like home. ❤️🏡🙏🏽

. . .

📖 Skinny Pretty Outgoing & Rich

Rules of the Game :

“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience.” - Pierre
____________

Tip 1 - Learn to love the contrast.
Embrace the negative and celebrate the positive. 💭

Tip 2 - Reflective journalling creates the ability to see life from an objective point of view and purposefully select how we want to feel. ✍🏽

Tip 3 - Musical genres carry a wide range of vibes. Create playlists that make you feel good. 🎵

. . .

1. You create your own rules.
(“First you make your beliefs then your beliefs make you.”)

2. Your reality is based on your intention and expectation.
(🙋🏽‍♀️ The belief behind the belief)

3. Contrast is a good thing, embrace the challenges.
(Learn from them - knowing what I don’t want shows me what I do want.)

4. You experience what you focus on.

5. Get to know yourself, you’ll find out your actually pretty great.

6. You don’t have to love everything about yourself, but you must accept all parts of yourself.

7. It’s in how you show up.
👉🏽 how you think, speak and act are your choices.

8. Seek positive associations on all subjects.

9. Relationships are everything.

10. Sometimes, it feels good to say no.

🙏🏽 say yes when you mean yes and no when you mean no. Never say yes because you think it’s what someone else wants you to do, unless of course, you want it too.

🩷🩷🩷

www.happyprettyrich.com

👉🏽 thanks for your real estate services @david.tsen 🥰 I’m very happy with the move. 🙌🏼

On the mooooooove 🎵

This one feels like home. ❤️🏡🙏🏽

. . .

📖 Skinny Pretty Outgoing & Rich

Rules of the Game :

“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience.” - Pierre
____________

Tip 1 - Learn to love the contrast.
Embrace the negative and celebrate the positive. 💭

Tip 2 - Reflective journalling creates the ability to see life from an objective point of view and purposefully select how we want to feel. ✍🏽

Tip 3 - Musical genres carry a wide range of vibes. Create playlists that make you feel good. 🎵

. . .

1. You create your own rules.
(“First you make your beliefs then your beliefs make you.”)

2. Your reality is based on your intention and expectation.
(🙋🏽‍♀️ The belief behind the belief)

3. Contrast is a good thing, embrace the challenges.
(Learn from them - knowing what I don’t want shows me what I do want.)

4. You experience what you focus on.

5. Get to know yourself, you’ll find out your actually pretty great.

6. You don’t have to love everything about yourself, but you must accept all parts of yourself.

7. It’s in how you show up.
👉🏽 how you think, speak and act are your choices.

8. Seek positive associations on all subjects.

9. Relationships are everything.

10. Sometimes, it feels good to say no.

🙏🏽 say yes when you mean yes and no when you mean no. Never say yes because you think it’s what someone else wants you to do, unless of course, you want it too.

🩷🩷🩷

www.happyprettyrich.com

👉🏽 thanks for your real estate services @david.tsen 🥰 I’m very happy with the move. 🙌🏼

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